Children need a Growth Mindset.
Ages 0-5 is where it starts.
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Why is Growth Mindset so Important for Child Development?
A child's mindset will change as they grow. Babies and toddlers who are raised in a "growth mindset" home, that is, being consistently praised for their efforts and curiosity, achieve more success in school and in adult life. This has been proven in multiple studies going back more than 30 years. Building your child's growth mindset will show him that he is able to learn anything new, and he will even enjoy doing "hard" things.
However, some children will develop what is called a "fixed mindset," believing they are not capable of learning certain things. Also, if thinking that success is the only thing that matters, they shy away from challenges to avoid making mistakes. These children only pursue accomplishments where they already feel "talented." As school years progress, they might see each difficulty as a permanent label.
I can't learn math.
I’m not an athlete.
I’m bad at making friends.
Some will carry these self-limiting
beliefs throughout life.
How can parents promote a Growth Mindset?
Rule #1: Don't say "Good job."
Why not? It's a missed opportunity. Instead, praise your child's efforts. Use these moments to engage deeper and promote self-evaluation.
Was that easy to do?
It looked like you had a big problem to solve!
Do you want to try something harder next time?
Oops, that didn't work. What else will you try?
You worked very hard to finish that!
It's important to make this a habit, but reading the above list one time won't do it. In order for growth mindset language to have an impact it needs to become second nature. With regular practice, children can learn to praise THEMSELVES when they persist through discomfort. This promotes a positive self-talk about their own capabilities to learn.
So, is it ever ok to say "Good job"?
Yes! Kids want to be praised for a job well done and they use this as a measure for how they are progressing. The goal is to stop over-using it.
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There is power in storytelling. These books help you learn how to praise your child's efforts. Reading the books repeatedly forms a new habit so it becomes natural to always interact this way. Plus, the stories help your child identify feelings of discomfort and see effort as a positive.
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